• Stephen Baines

A Wolf Doesn’t Lose Sleep Over The Opinions Of Sheep

Call them what you want. Naysayers, haters, wet blankets, etc. The sad truth is that more dreams have been killed by negative people than anything else. The truly successful people in life never care what other people think of them. They just carry on focusing on their goals and striving till their dreams became a reality.

When you have a dream or a desire in life, it is imperative that you follow your heart.

You only have one life to live and you do not want to reach an age where you have no energy left, looking back on your life with a list of 'could haves'. Having regrets when you can not take action is sad. Your past desires and dreams will return to haunt you. You may realise that you could have done so much more with your life. Or been so much more. Yet instead, you let yourself get discouraged by those who did not let you be yourself.

By this point in life, it will likely be too late. You may realise that none of what other people said really mattered and you should have followed your heart. This is a sad scenario but it plays out daily in thousands of people’s lives. You do not want to end up like them.

Now, this space is a real passion for me. I too have been embroiled in the act of caring too much about other peoples opinions on my actions. Yet what I found is that whilst there may times you are wrong and they are right, those times are few in existence. Simply because others do not look with the same eyes as you. The same insight. Passion. Experience

Below, are six tips to help you handle the naysayers. My YouTube channel also has a special mini-series on this topic, so please, check it out.

Know your 'Why'

Only YOU will know why your dreams are so important to you. Maybe you have a love for technology, sports or maybe an inclination to developing people. Maybe you have a desire to start your own business yet your partner is sceptical and thinks that your day job provides more security.

What are you going to do?

If you know WHY you’re doing what you do, you’ll push FAR ahead despite what others tell you. The promise will be clear to you and you’ll go against your critics.

Remember the bamboo tree

Here I reference a story about the Chinese bamboo tree. Once you plant the seed, you’ll need to water the soil for 5 years. During these 5 years, nothing will happen. However, on the 5th year, a shoot will sprout out from the ground. Once that happens, over the next 6-8 weeks, it will grow to over 80 feet tall. That’s amazing.

The same applies to your goals. It may seem like ages to get there and of course, people will be hinting at you that you might as well quit. Yet, if you persist, once you take off, your success will be massive. Keep the end-game in mind.

Get motivated

When you’re feeling down because people have poured water on your dreams or told you that you’re destined to fail, listen to motivational videos or read motivational books to pick yourself up. Do something that excites you. The key is to trigger Dopamine in the brain. Go for a run, a ride, hit the gym. Whatever it takes to pick-up your mood. Even the small stuff helps. Get a couple of small wins under your belt and the motivation will come flowing

Know that it’s all turbulence

When a plane takes off from the ground, many times it will face turbulence as it rises above the weather to reach cruising altitude. In the same vein, the beginning stages of getting to your goal will be tough, but once you get over the rough patches, it will most often be smooth sailing.

Success turns naysayers into supporters

It is a fact that the same people who laughed at you and mocked you will become your supporters once you make it. They’ll ask you for tips and advice to help themselves achieve success just like you. If you build a successful business, people who doubted you will even ask you for a job. That’s just the way the world is.

Understand the psychology behind it

Lastly, you need to understand that when you pursue your dreams, you are like a threat to others. Your determination to follow your own path and live life according to your own rules shines a spotlight on the failures of those around you. It forces people to realise that they quit on themselves or maybe did not do enough. The only way that they can feel better is to pull you down so that you can be a failure just like them.

They may make you feel like they’re doing it out of concern. But the truth of the matter is that they’re afraid you’ll succeed because if you do, it’ll mean that they could have followed their dreams and succeeded too.

So remember, always follow your warrior heart and do not allow the negativity from others to dull your sparkle or your desires.

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